If someone resists an Intimate Two’s drive to intimacy the Two may then push and challenge, trying to find a way around their beloved’s objection to becoming fully united.If this fails, the Two may grow angry or even physically violent. Offer their beloved an intensely focused interest, an interest they secretly want to have returned.Like Fours, Intimate Twos may be attracted to distant or unavailable partners this replicates a distant relationship with a parent.May harbor a melancholy desire for total enmeshed connection with another person related to the low side of Four.Can seem receptively interested in others, offering inviting touches while oozing a combination of charm and sexuality.Generally confuse being sexually desirable with being loved.Tend to act seductive and aggressive by turns.Can see beyond roles and contexts to identify someone’s essential humanity.Especially good at reading and responding to nonverbal behavior.Generous, sensitive and thoughtful towards their beloved.Can be excellent biographers, therapists, counselors excel in occupations that depend on effectively entering another individual’s subjective reality.Have superb social skills able to make direct, empathetic contact with others on a one-to-one basis.Highly emotionally intelligent and capable of deep personal intimacy.Hidden agendas may set events in motion involving other people which ultimately lead to the Two getting what he/she wants.Illness gets them attention and gives them permission to self-care and may also be away to indirectly express anger by making those who care about them suffer.More prone to melancholy martyrdom and psychosomatic illness than the other Two subtypes.Can drop more easily to the aggressive low side of Eight and are sometimes mistaken for Eights.Self-important, diva-like behavior possible. Can display a striking sense of entitlement as if the shame button has been removed from their brains.Believe: “Ido so much for everyone – I deserve to be treated as someone special.” Over estimate their contribution and what they are due for it.Can actively worry about the health of others while neglecting their own.Can begin to feel burdened with the needs of others and want recognition and pampering in return.Take good care of themselves but are equally concerned about friends and family.Highly effective in touch with the forceful high side of Eight.Appropriately “self-referenced” – know what they want and yet include the wishes of others.Have the courage and social skills to express their preferences.Healthy Self-preservation Twos are often more in touch with how they feel and what they want.Excerpted from ”The Dynamic Enneagram” by Tom Condon
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